once more with feeling
trans women were terrorized as children for acting like a girl.
females were terrorized as children for being a girl.
what do you mean “being” a…
Sweetheart, you really up here assuming I’m not a survivor? What on earth would make you feel like you have the right to do that?
Ima break it down for the last time. Because I can’t get clearer on this. And you are clearly having some difficulty with basic concepts (LINK SOUP! PATRIARCHAL!).
Your first question (although it continues to morph)
(1) what do you mean “being” a girl? what exactly does it feel like to “be” a girl? how can you qualitatively define a distinction between “acting like a girl” and “being a girl”?
Since you ignored both instances of video attachments answering EXACTLY your questions because factual support is patriarchal, and because you ignored Laverne Cox’s own statement about how she wasn’t “acting like a boy,” let me use a metaphor.
I am black. When I was growing up, I was called an oreo a lot. I was called an oreo because (a) I “sounded” white; (b) I really liked to read; (c) I listened to music that wasn’t just “black” music; and (d) I wasn’t a great dancer. These were the contexts in which I was usually called an oreo.
That meant, in those moments, I was “acting white.” Which was an impossibility because I am dark-skinned and visibly black.
On the flip, there were white people I grew up with who were a hella lot more “down” than me. They “sounded” black. They could “rap” and they were really into R&B. No one called them oreos because they were “acting black.” More “black” than a lot of folks thought I could.
So “acting” black, is all the ways that our society says “black people are.” Both black and white people create and recreate what “black” is. And if you do these things successfully? You are “acting black.”
(lucky for me I grew up and found a ton of amazing black nerds and I realized “black” was a lot bigger than I thought.)
But all through that, kinda like Dorothy, I was always being black. Because the fact that I was born visibly black and that everyone who saw me as visibly black meant that I was treated by everyone in the world as a black person, regardless of how I was ACTING. All the oreo taunts in the world did not diminish that fact. And I absorbed that reality of what people though about being black even through my books, my eurythmics, through my lack of “acting” black. Which led to a lot of confusion, I’ll tell you what.
BEING something is what you can’t escape through the ontological fact of your body. BEING something is in the conglomeration of cells that a person is. BEING something is underneath your clothes, and underneath your skin, and in your DNA. It is unavoidable. It is something that is thrown on you, with no choice and that is immutable. And based on that immutable quality you are treated in certain ways, whether you want it or not because of the perception of that immutable quality.
ACTING like something is embodying the outward, socially constructed markers of what that thing is. It is entirely unrelated to the embodied reality.
That is true of race, that is true of gender. You can act like a girl. Anyone can act like a girl. You cannot, however, become a female child. You are assigned that position and treated accordingly based on that perception. That being said, there are a shit ton of things i despise about “acting like a girl.” There are some things I love. I go in and out of this performance myself, but the thing is, I never was told I was “acting” like a girl. I was always told I wasn’t “acting ENOUGH like a girl.” And the reason why I wasn’t acting enough was because I had a vagina. And in those times that my performance wasn’t good enough, men got confused. And we couldn’t have that. That is the difference being acting and being.
I have now answered your question multiple times. With a crapton of information in support. Your responses are unsupported by anything other than your feelz and are now bordering on obtuse.
So final response from me because this “discussion” is not one.
If you think that a white guy in a video is “patriarchal” but are unable to conceive of how the dismantling of abortion rights, the criminalization of pregnancy for addicts, or the shackling females during childbirth, or the shaming and shunning of females who are menstruating, or the outright ban on a female saying the word VAGINA because she DARED question male privilege, are not direct actions taken by males against female people, as empowered by patriarchy to punish females for not properly reproducing male property then you are either (a) being willfully ignorant; (b) being shockingly callous to the struggle of half of humanity; or (c) you live under a rock. Every female has struggled with either being afraid of being/getting pregnant, or the fear of NOT being able to get pregnant. Indeed, those who have survived rape fear pregnancy from our rapists (even when that rapist is a trans woman). Oh, right, and sometimes a white male judge (PATRIARCHAL!) will make us share child custody with our rapist because, you know, misogyny + female biology = utter subjugation. Not acting, being.
There is not a single trans woman alive for whom any of these issues will ever be personally relevant; that is written on her body. There is not a single trans woman alive who, at birth, was assigned female and TREATED as such. Even in such simple things, like the willful stage of development, female assigned girls are stunted in who and what they are allowed to do. Not acting, being.
Lord, that was a lot of FACTS so I am sure you’ll just skip to non-responsive “I know you are but what am I.”
Here’s my question for you : Why won’t a trans woman ever have to wrestle with or come up with the funds for an abortion? Why won’t she ever have to worry about being sent to prison for 15 years if she has a baby while addicted? WHY NOT?
Prove to ME that females are NOT treated differently from trans women (with facts, supporting information, real world criteria) based on the fact of their biology. Prove it.
(that is another male thing, especially a white male thing. They can state things, definitively, with no support for the statement. they can make things be fact via fiat of their maleness, not because it was supportable. I call it the “So Say I” priniciple. Meanwhile, females and POC have to prove everything. Anything that is real about their suffering or their oppression at the hands of whites and males have to be proven beyond anything. THIS is what we have to show just to get equal protection and y’all are constantly denying us our own lived experiences and knowledge and saying that we are EXTERMINATING you and RAPING you without a shred, an iota, a single fact (A SINGLE ONE) to support your arguments.
And yet y’all don’t have a single catchy acronym for the males who are kicking all of our asses. Not one. Because you cannot demonstrate a single aspect of how we are oppressing you and the ones who are, as usual, get a free pass.
I know you won’t answer that or any of this. And definitely not with any actual facts, just your feelz, which, clearly trump everything else in the world. So I’m done with this “conversation.”
Free your mind.